My first blog entry…EVER!


The playground at "Princess' " School

How to begin?  I have taken to the great outdoors in hopes of finding some inspiration for my first ever blog entry.  “Wee-man” (My 4 month, 3 week old son) and I dropped off big sister “Princess” at school after lunch (“Princess” is my 6-year-old daughter, who is currently enjoying her last 3 days of Senior kindergarten) and we are now enjoying the warm sun and cool breeze, sitting on a blanket at the park.  The contemplating begins…  What do I write about first?

Scenery...hoping for inspiration

I guess I should tell you why I decided to start this blog in the first place.
Let’s start with “Princess”.  My daughter was born in April of 2004.  She was a wonderful gift.  I was only 20 at the time, a little earlier than I had planned on having children.  I had so many things I wanted to accomplish before being a parent.  Oh well, you play with the hand you’re dealt, and I wouldn’t change it for the world.  My little girl is my angel, a precious gift.  Even though things with her father didn’t work out, I thank him everyday for giving me such a blessing.  Now don’t get me wrong, I’m not stating anywhere that my daughter always ACTS like an angel.  She is a typical 6-year-old.  She has temper tantrums, she whines, and she stomps feet and slams doors. She also says please and thank you, smiles and says hello to people walking down the street, helps out with her baby brother, and the housework (sometimes) and has the biggest heart  I have ever seen.
I found out I was pregnant early June 2009, just over a year ago.  It was an extremely stressful time.  I know, I know, pregnancies are supposed to be joyous occasions with celebrating and all sorts of happiness.  That might have been the case for me, had it happened with different circumstances. I was now carrying my second child, and had no partner, and no one to stand by my side during this pregnancy/child.  “Wee-man” (for now) is going to grow up with only a Mama to love him.  (Thank goodness I have plenty to spare my darling children!)   Things happen for a reason.  I have always believed that, so with that being said, I made the decision that I could do nothing more than carry on with this pregnancy and once again play the hand I was dealt.

Wee-man @ 72 hours old 🙂

With all that being said, I decided while I was pregnant that there were going to be some big differences this time around.
When “Princess” was born, I attempted to breastfeed.  This lasted all of 2 whole weeks before my nipples were cracked, bloody, swollen and sore.  I was too proud/naive when leaving the hospital to accept a visit from an LC.  “It’s breastfeeding.  How hard can it be putting a baby to your breast to feed them?”  WOW…Anyone who has breastfed their children know how WRONG I was about that one.  So, not knowing of many supports in my community, I switched to AF.  (That’s artificial food for you non-breast buddies, otherwise known as formula!)  I used disposable diapers, I fed her food from a jar (which I started at 4 months), I think I may have put her in a Snuggli twice, she slept on her own, and I would use a swing to put her to sleep for months after we brought her home.  There are many other things I’m sure that I am forgetting, but this is only one post, and I intend to have many more.

There have been so many differences with “Wee-man” already and he is only 4.5 months old!  I was determined this time that breastfeeding was the way I wanted to go.  NO MATTER WHAT, and let me tell you, there were a LOT of whats!  When “Wee-man” was born, he had what was called Transient Tachypnea of the Newborn.  He became a week-long NICU graduate.  It was a very tough time for my little family, but we pulled through.  “Princess” stayed with my parents for that week, and I stayed in the Mother room in the NICU.  Upon leaving, “Wee-man” had already started to gain some weight back.  A week later at his check-up with our GP, he had started to lose again.  This is when our GP suggested we supplement with AF to get him gaining.  I, unknowingly, thought this was our only option, and did just that.  After a brief upset at having to give my son formula, I found the LLL web forum.  Here I found out from very helpful women, how to wean him off of the formula and build my milk supply naturally.  This whole process took just over 2 months.  Another difference is sleeping arrangements.  “Wee-man” and I co-sleep.  Everyone has an opinion on this subject.  I didn’t agree with it until doing a LOT of reading online.  He won’t sleep anywhere else for any length of time, and who can blame him?  Do you enjoy sleeping alone?  I held off on food a little longer this time, and it is NOT from a jar.  I have ventured down the road of homemade purees.  I know it is more work than store bought *ick* and from Baby-led weaning, but this is the method I have chosen, and find it to be the one to fit “Wee-man” and I, plus I enjoy doing it.  I love to cook, so why shouldn’t I also enjoy making food for my baby boy?  Time isn’t much of an issue for me right now.  Until “Wee-man” is older and I go back to school (which is what I was pursuing before finding out I was expecting) being a WAHM gives me lots of free time.   I bought a wrap carrier, and have another Snuggli, “Wee-man” and I use them a lot more frequently than I did with “Princess.”  ATM, I am still using disposables (I know shame on me…) but I am looking into trying out cloth.  I have done my research, and I have listed all the pros and cons.  Now to just do it already!

This has been quite a lengthy entry, and I am hoping I kept your attention enough to keep reading through.  I am looking forward to sharing all of our adventures, similar and different alike.

What differences in child-rearing have you noticed with your children?  Do you have any regrets?  What did you do that you kept the same?  Let us know!

Perhaps "Wee-man" will blog one day as well....hmmm

It is time to leave the park, and finish our bike ride.  Until the next post:

MiSSa 🙂

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5 Comments (+add yours?)

  1. Trishs
    Jun 25, 2010 @ 00:02:36

    I love this post it really makes you think and realize there is a lot more help out there now then there was before when we were kids. It also gets you seeing that you don’t need to give up just because one thing did not work out all you need to really do is look into things more and see if there is different ways of doing what you want to do ….. love it

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  2. Sarah B
    Jun 25, 2010 @ 00:46:21

    I like your background it’s pretty! I have to agree with you my oldest dd is 3 and her little sis is 4 mos 2ish wks (when is wee-man’s bday? her’s is feb 20th). I’m doing SO much differently this time. I had a hospy birth w/ epidural at 35 wks (induced for PROM) with my oldest… my 2nd was UC @ 42 wks. I “tried” breastfeeding for 3 days with my first… I’m still ebf with my second. I couldn’t stand putting my 1st in her crib or her own room so we did co-sleep but it was a big secret. She just got her own room and her own bed at age 3 but it was a very gentle process and I still sleep with her some nights. I co-sleep w this one too but I’m way more confident about it. My husband told me we “had” to CIOwith my 1st and get her in her own bed and sleeping all night at 8 mos and I did it but it was against every instinct I had. Finally one day I decided I didn’t care what awful things it would do to her, I was going to keep her in my bed and not I was done with the crying crap… all before I’d ever heard of anyone doing such a thing. I plan on keeping this one in my bed until she’s 3ish or wants to go sleep with her big sister. I never wore #1 but I did hold her a lot… #2 is IN LOVE with my moby wrap… like will not sleep if she’s not in it type of love. I started vaccinating #1 (stopped at 4 mos) and haven’t vacced #2 at all. And all sorts of other things in between.

    I’m filled with tremendous guilt over the things I had to figure out through my first child. I wish wish wish I had had the education and support at the time to form a successful breastfeeding relationship with her. I feel sick when I think about the CIO phase of our lives. I feel like she has been the guinea pig for everything while her lil sis gets the best of us right off the bat. My aunt told me that that feeling of guilt never goes away. “You will never feel like you had enough time or did the perfect thing all the time, you just have to own it and not let it overwhelm you.” So I’m trying to own the experiences we’ve had thus far and use it to make me a better mom to BOTH my babes.

    I think its awesome that you are bfing your wee-man. It’s that much harder with an older one running around and the temptation to just go back to the “quick & easy” (but not really when you think about it) way can be pretty strong for me on a bad day.

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    • MiSSa
      Jun 25, 2010 @ 02:25:25

      Thank you so much for your imput. I agree with you 110% about the guilty feelings. I am trying to tell myself, that I did what I could for #1 with the knowledge I had at the time. That helps me a little. Your Aunt is absolutely right. She sounds like a wise woman. Moby wraps are a wonderful invention. I use one has well. Hope to hear more from you as I get the ball rolling around here. Oh, and Wee-man’s birthday was January 31st. So not too far off of your little one.

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  3. meg
    Jun 25, 2010 @ 22:53:13

    your so AWEsome. i love this. all of it. everything about it. actually… i almost cried (thanks for that :p) .. i never told you but you are one tough cookie and you did an incredible job raising your “princess” … i know wee-man will be just as wonderful.

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    • MiSSa
      Jun 26, 2010 @ 01:51:56

      Ya talk about crying Meg…lol. Thank you for such kind words. Its always a good feeling to have someone you know tell you when you’re doing a good job at something, because it doesn’t always feel that way. I have to tell you, that you inspire a lot of my creativity. I love how you live your life, and the things you do! You’re “princess” is a wonderful child as well 🙂 I’m looking forward to this next adventure (the blog and whatever comes with it,) and appreciate all your help so far, and help in the future.

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